I asked my bishop about it and he claimed he had never heard of it. It’s amazing how people assumed that I failed to regain my testimony because of worthiness issues. We both knew it was a crock and we just left in the middle of sacrament meeting, literally, and never went back again.
A little more digging into that story and I realized that it was true. In the midst of all this I had four close family members die within a few months.
I was a convert after high school (after much vehement opposition from my parents). Anyway, he went on his mission and I proceeded to marry the first guy I met in college. I knew my marriage was awful within months and was told by bishop after bishop that this was my trial in life.
My high school boyfriend was LDS and I got totally sucked in. I went to Michigan State University and was heavily involved with the student ward there so I met a returned missionary at an institute dance. During the fifteen years of my first marriage I got used to looking at everyone else who seemed happy and knowing that would never be me.
” We cannot predict with certainty where any decision will take us, but we can be reasonably assured that if what we have ‘been doing’ has brought us doubt and unhappiness that it will continue unless we make some scary changes. Congratulations are as much in order for you as they are for someone who overcomes an addiction. if you want to know why it is that she left, read the history yourself! What you find will astound you and if you are like thousands of us, you too will see the church for what it is, LEAVE and begin living life.
Heather I congratulate you fully, leaving is a large and challenging step.
Because, if there is a problem that is caused by the husband who is an active member/ priesthood holder, the church blames the wife and tells her to just put up with it.
But, if he stops going to church or does research and has questions, the church tells the active one to leave the other.
It wasn’t right for you; you recognized it and got out.That I didn’t need to endure a horrible marriage to get me to salvation. I found Jeff through an exmormon message board (exmo-social.com).That I only have one shot at this thing and I was blowing it. He was going through a divorce at the same time so we became friends quickly.My party-line response was, “Oh that can’t be true”.At the moment I said that, I realized how programmed my thinking was. And that I take eternal matters “lightly” because of the conclusion I ended with. My ex and I one day just decided to be done with it.