“We spent the whole entire night finding out how we were in love with the same books and music,” said Sophie, who has long, dirty-blond hair and heavy-lidded eyes that are never completely open.
“She was new and she was pretty and mysterious, with her dark hair-all the guys flocked to her.” The following Friday night, they went to Anna’s house, raided her parents’ liquor cabinet, and ended up walking up and down lower Broadway, talking to strangers and giggling.
“But there are those few that really just fill you up and make you feel warm and happy.” Sophie and Anna (their names have been changed) arrived at their friend’s brownstone and joined everyone in the den, sitting down on either side of a guy Anna had a crush on. But there’s this thing about enjoying it-and doing it for attention.
“We were kissing each other across him, and then we both started kissing him,” said Sophie. And it was both.” After that, Anna and Sophie continued to spend all their time together-but even now that they were physically involved, they never thought of themselves as lesbians.
It feels normal at Hunter, but once you go outside of New York City, it’s not normal.” “I think it’s more accepted in the city than the country, because there are more alternative types around,” said Tina. Last summer at camp, all the little suburban girls would call me a lesbian if I undressed in front of them in our bunk.” Anna and Sophie admit they’d enjoyed the attention that came with being a girl-girl couple in high school.
“At school, they said I was this wannabe-lesbian straight girl trying to be really cool,” said Anna. People put on the front so much at our age that it’s fantastic to be fluid-but then everybody still has the same reservations we’ve always had.” “There’s still a big thrill that you get from being that girl, the girl that does that, ” said Sophie.
It’s not about rebellion-it’s about exploration, and it’s natural.” Ms.
While many New York girls may act like lesbians to both mock and attract young men, there is a definite group of young women who are finding something in a sexualized female bond that they don’t get from the attentions of the average high-school boy. Tina first experienced kissing her girlfriends in seventh grade, at sleepover parties. to be a real lesbian, but poser lesbians are usually a kind of insecure girl who feels like she’s not really special for any reason-and I know I kind of sound like Dr.“Even when everyone around you is trashing you.” “The pop-culture terrain about sexuality has changed, and I think it’s a lot more permissible to be gay-ish than it used to be,” said Jennifer Baumgardner, co-author of Manifesta: Young Women, Feminism and the Future. So I think young people are trying these things on.If you ever go to Ani Di Franco concerts, they’re filled with girl-girl couples between the ages of 12 and 20, and I’m sure a lot of them are not going to end up gay.” Girl-girl love scenes are increasingly unremarkable in movies like 1999’s Cruel Intentions (in which Selma Blair and Sarah Michelle Gellar’s characters share a slow and deliberate French kiss) and the current Femme Fatale , in which Rebecca Romijn-Stamos’ character seduces Rie Rasmussen.They were holding hands and hugging, and at one point, Anna was leaning up against a store window when Sophie put her arms around her neck and kissed her.“She put her hands around my neck and kissed me back, and that was it,” said Sophie.