Their lives are so transient.”If your religion isn’t playing a significant (or any) role in your social life, it doesn’t necessarily make sense that the romantic partner you pick at this time would share your religion.
“A lot of people say marriage is an issue of opportunity —the people we go to school with, work with,” Riley said.
Thus, statistically, as an American Jew who is not Orthodox, there are overwhelming odds that I will, ultimately, marry someone who is not Jewish—if I marry at all (the fast-growing number of single Americans suggest there’s also a decent shot I won’t wed).
Moreover, it’s not just, as Riley referred to, “an issue of opportunity.” The logic behind exclusively marrying someone who shares your religion doesn’t necessarily seem compelling in a modern and increasingly secular society.
The thought of wedding and starting a family with someone who was not a member of the tribe was not up for debate in my mind.
Or that was the case when I moved to New York City after college.
All these factors put the pressure on people not to be part of a religious community.“If you’re not a part of a religious community, attending services regularly, the chance you’ll marry someone in that community drops significantly.”Perhaps, then, it’s no wonder that the rates of Jewish intermarriage have been growing since the 1960s and are pretty darn high.According to a 2013 survey from the Pew Research Center, the rate of intermarriage among non-Orthodox Jews is 71 percent.After meeting her at a family event, his grandma, who was hard of hearing, shouted, “‘Japan saved some Jews during the war,’” Golin recalled.“I took it as, ‘Okay, I got my grandma’s stamp of approval.’”Golin’s story is an inspiring one.