MS is draining physically and mentally — so is dating. If dating is new to you, ease into it slowly to allow your body and mind to adapt.If dating tends to stress you out, look for ways to modify the experience to be more pleasurable by pacing yourself or taking more control of the dates.Here’s how: The risks of dating are present continuously, whether the relationship is getting started or has been developing for years.Identifying your risks early in the process will permit you to gain awareness before they become too problematic.Have you been too optimistic or too pessimistic in the past?After you identifying your tendencies, try moving towards the middle.
Not just the persons who are diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, but those around us who share in this experience.
If your only goal is finding “the right person” immediately, you might miss many opportunities to grow and learn about yourself and others. If your goal is to land “the big one” on the first cast, you are going to experience overwhelming failure. If you shift your goal to something more realistic like getting a few nibbles during a day on the lake, it will lower your stress and disappointment.
This notion is important because dating is not a science. Also, this view will leave you more encouraged to repeat the process.
Certainly all relationships are stressful, but too much stress only leads to negative outcomes for you and the relationship. You can do both, and you can do them well if you take the time to thoughtfully prepare.
The formula is simple: target your risks and set expectations and goals before you clarify your communication.