I cannot tell you how many men I have clicked with via email online dating, to have them ask for my number.
I’ve asked them to call me and, instead, have received a text with the expectation of having a full, personal, get-to-know-each-other convo via text messages.
The ball bounced back to his court and I ran to get it.
Now, Guys, let me be clear, I am not saying to do anything spiteful or hurtful or run and hook up with other women if you are dating someone and are into her.
As a single woman and Dating Expert, you will often hear me quote, “Don’t hate the player, hate the game.” And, as much as men and women hate to admit it, there is always a game in the game of love.
I know, because I have played many and have prided myself on being “hard to get.” I also know because some of my games have worked and others have shamefully backfired.
I have been labeled as “playing hard to get” or “difficult” with many online dating prospects, because I have made a clear choice not to meet a guy without a cool phone convo first.It really is like a basketball game; the ball bounces from your court to her court at different times, especially at the beginning when you are learning about one another.I am definitely guilty of having a guy pursue and chase me and make it oh-so-easy early on that I have felt like I didn’t have to work as hard to build something. He skips calling me for a day or two or doesn’t ask me out for Saturday night and I go cray-cray.As a result, I have—unconsciously or unintentionally—taken him/it for granted. It happened to me recently and I can laugh about it now, but at the time I was freaked out, because he had been very consistent for the first month, then the curveball.He knew what he was doing and I have to give him props for playing the game.