This is how an abuser reduces an adult to the level of a child, cutting off their autonomy, begging for money for the simplest things. Yes, it’s more obvious when an abuser insults you or threatens you.
If they do, then ask yourself this crucial question: does my partner treat me like a whole, autonomous human being – or rather only an extension of themselves? But because emotional abuse is a sub-category of control, they will often resort to other methods of threat.
Are they incapable of taking responsibility for their words and actions toward you and others?
Only then can you make a clear, informed decision, and live the life of self-worth and love that you deserve to live. Because, if you are like most people, you might be missing the red flags that you are in a relationship with an abuser.Chances are that you don’t want to see these red flags because you so desperately want to believe that your abuser actually loves you, or cares about you – or wants the best for you.If you feel as if they are putting you in this second category, it’s up to you to decide if that’s really how you want to continue to live your life. Some will threaten to leave you – and blame that choice on you.Some will threaten to hurt or even kill themselves – and blame that choice on you.